Love, Loss and Facebook

My Year of Grief on the Run

Sean Stanelun, resting in a hospital room in Spokane, Washington. Wife, Dawn Picken stands beside him.

Sean Stanelun, resting in a hospital room in Spokane, Washington. Wife, Dawn Picken stands beside him.

Love, Loss and Facebook shows how our family lived through my husband’s catastrophic illness. It’s a tale of grief on the run, and about the online community that supported us. It’s about laughing, even snorting through heartache, because the original meaning of ‘humor’ was bodily fluids, and I’ve mopped up plenty of those. Even with a black humor escape valve, even though I ran from places, from people, from things that reminded me of Sean – I couldn’t outrun grief.

Please enjoy the first chapter which is linked below; I welcome your feedback. The memoir will be published as soon as I scrape together funds to publish a professionally edited and designed paperback book. An online edition will also be forthcoming. Thanks.

Love, Loss and Facebook

Chapter One - In Sickness, In Hell

(click link above to read Chapter One)

“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news.

They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly — that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” – Anne Lamott

Authored by or about me:

·       Couple find comfort in friends during illness – Spokesman Review, October, 2009

http://www.spokesman.com/stories/2009/oct/29/persevering-through-pain

·       Picken travels world with kids after death of spouse - Spokesman Review, April, 2012

http://www.spokesman.com/stories/2012/apr/12/a-journey-of-grief/

·       Inside Story: Dealing with grief – Bay of Plenty Times, July, 2015

https://www.nzherald.co.nz/bay-of-plenty-times/news/article.cfm?c_id=1503343&objectid=11486769

·       Comment: Happy birthday, and don’t forget to wear sunscreen – Bay of Plenty Times, January, 2018

https://www.nzherald.co.nz/bay-of-plenty-times/news/article.cfm?c_id=1503343&objectid=11981790

·       Comment: The dreamless sleep of a traveler – Bay of Plenty Times, February, 2018

https://www.nzherald.co.nz/bay-of-plenty-times/news/article.cfm?c_id=1503343&objectid=11986136

·       Personal Blog – Adventure Mom: http://pickendawn.blogspot.com/